Have you ever known someone in your life who is toxic? I mean, maybe it is a co-worker, a neighbor, a creepy service provider, or maybe a family member.
A toxic person is someone who is unhealthy for you to be around either because of their over- dependency on you, abusiveness, emotional lack of well-being, mind games, mental illness, possessiveness, jealousy, nosiness, sneakiness, stalker-like behavior or maybe just a heavy -duty lack of appropriate boundaries. Have you ever had someone like that in your life?
I know in my logical mind that the healthiest thing to do is cut that person out of your life…but what if they keep popping back up in your life when you have already cut them out of your everyday life?
These days, with the internet making everyone’s personal information so public…it is hard to become invisible to those you don’t want to find you. I make a very specific effort to have an unlisted number, i shredd my junk mail with my address on it, i am careful not to give out any unnecessary information…and yet still, there is someone who chooses to pop in and out of my family’s lives at their will.
I know you can go the whole legal route of filing papers to restrain someone ( I have done this)…but when someone knows so much about your personal life…like where you go to church, where your kids go to school,where you live, where you work…those kinds of things…it is a little disconcerting to say the least. You can move, but there is always a paper trail like the Department of Motor Vehicles, Registering an address change with the post office, Phone service; it is mind boggeling how easy it is to trace someone.
Especially, when that person doesn’t respect boundaries and feels free to contact your friends or other family members. Information all the time is not always a good thing!
Write where you are 
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