Mom…Grandmother Of The Year…NOT!

        This was a very sad state of parenthood to learn about.  It seems that a woman in Georgia found out that her teenaged son and his underaged girlfriend were expecting a baby.  Mom or grandmother decided that they weren’t ready for parenthood.  She took it upon herself to contact the girlfriend and convince her NOT to tell her parents about the pregnancy and to have an abortion.  She alienated the girls parents right to love, support, and guide their daughter during one of the most important decisions she would ever make in her lifetime. 

        The boys mother, Cindi Cook, forged a note saying she was the girls mother and gave consent for the abortion.  A judge said she was guilty of interferring with child custody and of breaking the parental notification law regarding abortion.  She will be in jail for a year now because of the guilty verdict.  There may be repercussions for the clinic involved as well; since they allegedly didn’t follow through and verify Cindi Cook’s claim of parentage of the teenaged girl. 

         She allegedly did all of this so that her son’s life wouldn’t be ruined… so that he could still go to college.  Ms. Cook persuaded the young girl to have the abortion; she allegedly was against the idea.  Without the young girls parental input…the baby was aborted a year ago in May.  The teenaged girl told her parents within the next month.  It is too bad that she couldn’t resist the pressure and the fear that Ms. Cook put on the young lady; but, she was only 16 and wasn’t allowed to confide in her parents.  It seems that she and her parents opposed the abortion…they are allegedly holding Ms. Cook responsible for pressuring her into it.  If the parents and the young lady opposed the abortion due to religious reasons…i can only imagine the devastation they must be feeling.  What a horrible position to be in.

       Now, I can understand the mother’s concern about her son’s future…however, why should  his future take precedence over the young lady or the unborn child?  It shouldn’t have taken precedence over them…every life is valuable.   She was wrong in every way possible to pressure a young, fearful girl; she was wrong to sign that form saying she was the young girls mother, she was wrong to put the young girl in a dangerous medical procedure without her parents permission, and she was wrong to dismiss the life of the child; much the way someone would swat an inconvient fly hovering over a Fourth of July potato salad.

         She was wrong by protecting her son’s future at the cost of a innocent baby’s life, or, by inflicting the physical and emotional devastation put on two young people who hurried into adult activities that resulted in real life adult consequences that they should have been encouraged to face.  Sure, she is going to have some time behind bars to think on her actions…but, the teens will have a lifetime of regrets and guilt to deal with…not to mention the grieving of their choices. 

       Does wanting to protect your child’s future of a college degree by encouraging a quick abortion make Cindi Cook mom of the year?  In my opinion, it doesn’t make her mother of the year and it certainly does not make her grandmother of the year.  That baby’s life, that was thrown away, would have progressed by this point to walking, talking and exploring the world.  That child would have celebrated it’s first birthday already!   If things were different, it might have even included hugs for a woman, called grandma, a woman who couldn’t let a little thing like a teen pregnancy come before her child’s chance at a college education!

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