We are all born into circumstances that we have absolutely no control over. The best that you can hope for is to maximize the positive and to minimize the negative events, circumstances or experiences. All of those things, both positive and negative, help to shape us into the person that we become.
If we start to experience problems in our relationships at work, home, school, or on a personal level with someone special; often, we will discover at the root of the issue, are things left over from our very beginnings in life that are unresolved or unhealed. When the past threatens to destroy your future you must take time to figure it out; for your well-being and for those who care about you.
Understanding what the problem is and where it comes from is a turning point. Don’t get stuck there with excuses why your life isn’t turning out the way you want it to…you don’t have to continue to be held hostage by the past!
Do you know anyone who is there, or has been there? I know someone who is hurting right now because his life is falling apart…seemingly, all at once. Of course, that is not actually the way it happened. What has happened is, that everything that went before was not dealt with in any sort of positive way, and it has all just now begun to explode in his face. It is a very painful time.
The situation he was born into, morphed over time into a lifetime of patterns that has roots in verbal abuse and culminated in a very low self esteem. Unhappiness would at times show up in his life…but, not understanding that the unhappiness was a symptom of deeper things…he would think that it was caused by some sad, frustrating, or negative experience or person in his life at that moment….A conditional unhappiness.
Now looking back at the patterns and the destruction…he is beginning to see how all of those things have affected his life and his relationships. This is where the works sets in. Discovering all of this has been painful. The desire to fix it and repair the damage is strong…but, being reminded that fixing it is going to take time and it may not happen quick enough to save some of the relationships in his life was hard to hear; I am sure. But, just knowing that unless healing is worked towards… and self -love and self- respect begins to happen…no relationship will survive long term, was a point, that had to be made.
Loving yourself has to be a goal. Understand that you can’t control what went before in your life. Owning that the past has had a huge impact on who you are; and, taking control for healing, forgiveness and acceptance, is the key. Owning it doesn’t mean that you are saying what happened in the past is ok…it just means that you acknowledge that those things of the past happened; and, are a small portion of who you are. Things can change for the better.
Taking back your life means taking responsibility for the direction your life takes from this point forward. Draw a line in the sand and say…that was before…this is now…I am the one in control of what happens in my life; as far as personal fulfillment and happiness are concerned. I will be a respectful, loving, caring and sensitive person towards myself and others; it is a good place to begin.
Write where you are 
Leave a Reply