For those of you who have been following the tragedy of the murders in Jennifer Hudson’s family and the kidnapping of her young, seven year old nephew; think about this, what happens when your safe place, your place of foundation has been invaded or attacked? This family is going through a nightmare of epic proportions and because of fame, they are having to do it publically.
Jennifer and her sister Julia have lost their mother, Darnell Donerson and their brother, Jason Hudson; and, Julia’s son Julian is missing. This home that the murders took place in was Jennifer’s refuge from the crush of the world that she stepped into as a celebrity when her star began to rise from her singing and her acting over the last several years.
The Hudson family was and is a family of faith. Jennifer has said that she grew up in that home, that neighborhood and her home church. It is an integral part of her support system. It is part of who she is. Her mother did not want to move when her daughter became famous…they didn’t want that celebrity to change who they were as a family. Their home was the center of their family. It was where all things sprouted for them. Where they came to; to be together. It was a safe place. A place of nurturing.
What happens now; other than trying desperately to get answers to where Julian is….and what happened to their mother and their brother? Julia and Jennifer are on automatic pilot i am sure at the moment. Trying to make sense of things…hoping and praying for the safe return of Julian. But, their safe place has been invaded.
How will they ever be able to look at that home and feel what they once felt. Will it ever feel like home again? Or will they always feel loss and hurt when they look upon the face of the place that has so many memories for their family. What about Julian when he comes home…did that poor baby witness the murder of his beloved grandmother and uncle? Will he ever feel safe there again? Will he ever feel “at home” somewhere else? What does this kind of trauma do to a human mind and soul?
Many people experience such traumas in their lives…it is something that can be overcome…but, it does shake the foundation of a person/family to rebuild that sense of trust and safety. Please pray for the Hudson family…as well as, anyone else who has had to go through something so violent and traumatic. Their faith in God will help them through this time. However, they are human…and will go through much before they are able to recover and overcome. Have you ever gone through a trauma that has made your safe place feel violated or unsafe to you? How did you handle it?
Write where you are 
The is the worth thing that could happened to Jennifer Hudson, her mother and brother was killed and she doesn’t know where her nephew is. How do anyone ever get over any of this.
I hope that her seven year old nephew is found. I hope he is okay. The house I cannot see how any one could ever lived in this house again. There is no way anyone could ever feel safe there again. I also, hope that they will find out who did this.
I feel sorry for Jennifer Hudson and her family. Nobody sure ever have to deal with this. Everything is happening for Jennifer Hudson now, her movies, and new CD. Now, she has to deal with this.
[…] October 27, 2008 by writeasrain Breaking news…a vehicle related to the tragedy of the murder of Jennifer Hudson’s mother and brother…as well as, the kidnapping of Jennifer’s sister Julia’s son, Julian has been found. There is concern there may be the body of a child inside. I pray that that is not factual. Will update when the information is available. See related post: https://writeasrain.wordpress.com/2008/10/26/when-your-safe-place-has-been-invaded/ […]
First of all I want to say to Jennifer & Family I am praying for you all & just have faith & trust in the lord, because that is the only one who is going to help pull you through this troubled time. It’s gonna take a while to rebuild sense & trust & safety back into your life, but by the grace of GOD It wil come. I myself have went through a trauma in my life, One of the ways I get through it is to talk about it because it hsa become a part of my life, because it is something I can never forget. It happened around this time of the year. It was on the day after Thanksgiving. My mother and father were separated, I decided I was going to play cupid, and try and get these two back together. It was actually my first big dinner I was going to prepare, and I did. This happened in 1980 I had just gave birth to a little boy on Sept 12. Well mom and dad and other family members showed up, everything went well. other then mom & dad did’nt leave together but planned to get together the next day. And they did Just to hear the news from the police that my Dad had shot my mother 5 times in the eye, but , side, stomach, chest, and then turned the gun on himself in the head. He died but by the grace of God she survived. But the the year before that my kids father had committed suicide, and my dad promised me that he would be there for me. I come from a family of four other sibling, and no one we grew up with ever throught this could have happened to our family , Because all of our friend’s said we lived like families that come on T.V. that’s how sweet it was. You’re going to go thru a transition trying to put the blame on each family member, But when this happens just cll on JESUS because that is the only one that is going to see you through, and you and sister please get closer because you two need one another no matter what people say. Stay strong for GOD. GOD BLESS EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU IN YOUR FAMILY.