Well, it seems that tone of voice can make all the difference in the world when a statement is made. It has been reported that a contestant, by the name of Mark Mudd, auditioned for the American Idol show. The audition apparently didn’t go well and as he was exiting, Mark Mudd said, “Be Careful”. The American Idol judges took that comment negatively since the audition didn’t get him on the show.
Both Simon Cowell and Paula Abdul allegedly felt threatened. With Paula Abdul’s recent experience with an obssessed fan’s, Paula Goodspeed, suicide near her home…it is understandable that she would be a bit wary; however, i think had they concentrated on Mark Mudd’s tone of voice…maybe they would have heard a clue that tipped the balance of common sense that the statement held no threat of future violence. The judge’s alleged perception of the statement was influenced by the alleged failure of the audition to get the performer on the program as a contestant.
The audition was in Louisville, Kentucky; and in that region of the country, and others, “be careful” is a common phrase spoken in parting. I do it myself…it is the way i grew up…it is a caring way to part company; it expresses concern for the other person’s well-being.
All in all, this example of the importance of tone of voice is a learning lesson. People do it all of the time, they speak without considering how their words communicate their intent. We can learn to really listen to each other, watch the other person’s body language and consider the relationship of their words, to the situation in which the conversation is taking place….in other words, using common sense to evaluate a person sincerity and intent. So, “be careful” in how you communicate; in your business, in your relationships, and in your speaking…both in public and in private. Have a great day!
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