Posted in adoption, baby, birth, celebrity, children, divorce, entertainment, Faith, Fame, family, kids, life, marriage, music, news, observations, opinion, parenting, pregnancy, relationships, tagged adopted, baby, band, blessings, celebrity, children, commitment, divorced, Fame, family, foundation, God, Harlow, joel madden, life, married, news, nicole richie, Oscar, parenting, parents, pregnancy, role models, young people on February 23, 2009|
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Today it was announced on Joel Madden’s bands website that he and Nicole are adding to their family. Their daughter Harlow is going to have a younger sibling. Having children who are close in age is good for the children; but, can be a little rough on the parents. However, Joel says that finding out that they are expecting another child is better than an Oscar!
With their daughter Harlow just over 1 year old and a second child on the way; one wonders whether they will get married? Nicole’s adopted parents divorced when she was young so maybe that plays a part in not having legalized her relationship with Joel…but, there is no greater commitment than having a child together; so hopefully, they will get married soon. Joel’s father, allegedly left his family and they struggled because of it. So, maybe fear and trust are big issues for this young couple in love.
God says that to those whom much is given, much is expected in return. Both Nicole and Joel have had many blessings in their lives. I like the fact that they started the Richie Madden Children’s Foundation to help children. Joel also says that God has blessed his family. I do wish since so many young people look up to them as role models that they would get married in the eyes of God so that they could realize the fullness of God’s blessings!
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Posted in abortion, adoption, Advocating for special needs, anger, anti-abortion, baby, birth, children, crime, death, emotions, family, fathers, grandchildren, grief, health, Heart, help, kids, Labor, law enforcement, legal, life, loss, medical, mental and physical health, mom, mother, Mother's Day, murder, news, observations, opinion, pain and misery, parenting, pregnancy, relationships, religion, respect, responsibility, sadness, sex, teens, trauma, well-being, tagged abort, abortion, anti-abortion, baby, blame, blob of flesh, child, clinic, daughter, death, DNA, Doctor, granddaughter, human, lawsuit, legally, life, medical procedure, morally, mother, police, premature, society, thrown away, trash, wrong on February 7, 2009|
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Grrrr…I am a bit torn on this news item; whether to feel more anger or sadness. It seems that a young 18 year old woman found out that she was pregnant. She went to a clinic to have an abortion and was given medicine to dialate her cervix to prepare for an abortion procedure. Before the doctor could perform the abortion…the medication caused her to deliver her baby daughter at just 23weeks of pregnancy.
A clinic owner allegedly came in and cut the umblical cord and put the child who was struggling to breathe into a red plastic biohazard bag and threw the child in the trash…all as the mother watched in horror. Allegedly a doctor came in and gave her some medicine to calm her down and sent her home in shock. The police were called and the child’s remains were identified by DNA as being related to the mother. Now the mother has sued the doctor and the clinic where the delivery/abortion took place; the doctor has allegedly lost his license.
This procedure took the life of a human baby almost three years ago. That child would be walking, talking, singing it’s abc’s , potty training…and maybe even going to pre-school now. She would be making her mother or another mother figure (she could have been adopted by another mother) mother’s day cards in May…she was not a blob of flesh like so many of these clinics try to tell young women. She would be a daughter, and a granddaughter; if she could.
The mother allegedly has said that she changed her mind about the abortion, once she saw her daughter alive; now she is traumatized by the memory of watching her child struggle for breathe and being tossed away like a bag of garbage. I am sure that the legal question was did the abortion come first/or the birth…was the child actually born alive? Testing supposedly revealed that the child did actually breathe, so that means that she was born alive.
So, who is to blame for this child’s death? Is it the clinic owner, who by the way did not have a license to practice medicine allegedly? Or was it the doctor who was not present? Was it the mother who went in for an abortion in the first place? Is it society who allows abortion in the first place? Do we blame the makers of contraception for possibly having failed the mother and father of the child? Who exactly is at fault? I say, it is all of the above; at least morally, if not legally.
First of all, I believe that abortion is wrong. I think that if it is true that a clinic owner, who was not a medical doctor, did what has been alledged, then they are also at fault. I think if the doctor perscribed the medication that caused her to go into labor and deliver a live child that was indeed tossed away in a plastic bag when it was struggling to breath…they that doctor is also wrong. Was there contraception used in the first place? I dont know. I do know that if the teenaged mother was having sex..she should have understood the consequences of her actions that resulted in a pregnancy and that by going to have an abortion…that that child’s death was a direct result of having medication that was designed to result in the death of the child; it should not have shocked her that the child died as a result of taking medication designed to cause said abortion. Is society at fault here? Yes, because we allow these things to happen …because we don’t stand up and scream bloody murder that it happens every day around the world.
Which came first, the abortion or the birth? Does it really matter at this point regarding this particular child? No, it died needlessly. If that mother was truly horrified by this situation…then maybe some good can come out of it by her lawsuit, by her speaking out…maybe even by doing a special service announcement on television or in the schools.
It is outrageous. Yes, that child was only 23weeks in the womb of it’s mother…and yes, it may not have survived even had the clinic called for medical help or intervention for that baby…it was pre-mature…not by nature’s designs but by mankinds design. However, it may have had a fighting chance if it had not been aborted or if it had been taken to a neo-natal unit. Life is precious…dont abort. That mother will relive those moments for the rest of her life. The child didn’t get to have a rest of it’s life.
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Posted in accomplishments, adoption, Advocating for special needs, Blogging, children, encouragement, mental and physical health, organizations for special needs, parenting, special needs, tagged acceptance, blog, children, experience, growing up, independence, love, parenting, peers, special, special needs, struggles, successes, support, website, young adults on January 2, 2009|
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If you are the parent of a special needs child then you know that growing up special in today’s world is not easy. Finding ways to help your child be successful and to be as independent as they can be is often a challenge. Too often those children, or young adults, are shuffled off to a seperate area or to a “special” program. Acceptance is sometimes hard to come by.
Therefore, it is vitally important to create an environment where your special person is accepted, loved, encouraged and challenged to spread their wings. Finding appropriate venues to integrate them with “normal” or “average” peers is difficult.
When you are able to find a good fit…often you must force yourself to stand back and let them do and be. That is easier said than done. As a parent you are always in a protective mode…and you should be…but…you must also let them be as independent as they can be without interference. 🙂
Do you have some great experience that you could share with other parents of special needs children or children who have been adopted who struggle with issues? If so, others could benefit from your successes and possibly even your struggles. Check out this blog: http://www.growingupspecial.com/ Introduce yourself and leave a comment. You never know…you just might find others to share with.
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Posted in abuse, adoption, children, crime, death, Descriptive Words, emotions, grandchildren, grandparents, grief, Heart, law enforcement, legal, life, loss, love, media, mental and physical health, missing, mother, murder, news, pain and misery, Remembering, sadness, tagged Casey Anthony, Caylee Anthony, cruelty, death, Descriptive Words, flooded, grief, Heart, investigation, media, missing child, murder, news, prison, prosecutors, public, search, skeleton on December 20, 2008|
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Every since young two year old Caylee became “missing”…her picture has impacted millions of people who found themselves caring for Caylee. Thousands of volunteers looked for her. News agencies kept her story in the news…every week.
Each time that there was new information on the case, the media brought it to the public. That picture of the beautiful young child, with the mahogony brown hair and the sweet chocolate brown eyes that look up so innocently from her preciously folded hands under her chin, is embeded in my mind’s eye for life.
Caylee’s spirit seems to call out to the person looking at her picture. She was begging someone to find her with those big, beautiful eyes. She deserved to be found; better yet…she deserved to live. No child should have experienced what happened to young Caylee.
This week it was confirmed that her skeleton was found less than a half of a mile away from the home that Caylee, and her mother Casey, shared with Caylee’s grandparents before she was discovered to be missing. That is a horrible ending to the search for Caylee.
Many believed that Caylee was deceased. No-one wanted it to be true. However, a meter reader found her remains in a garbage bag. She was tossed away like she was garbarge to be dumped…that truly makes me sick. I hope it haunts whoever is responsible for throwing away Caylee’s life. News reports are not too informative ( i am sure that is for legal reasons when Casey Anthony goes to trial for the alleged murder of her child). What we do know is that the meter reader had called in to the authorities in August for them to search the area where Caylee’s remains were found on December 11, 2008. It sounds as if an attempt was made by authorities to search the area but it may have been flooded at that time. This past week, tests determined that the skeleton was indeed Caylee. That skeleton was in pieces that were scattered around the area. There was no flesh…and apparently, there was duct tape over the child’s mouth. What kind of cruelty is that…the child was two years old for heaven’s sake!
It is a horrible case; will the whole truth ever be known? It is hard to tell; as Casey Anthony has told so many versions of “her” truth…that it will be hard to discern what really did happen. It was decided that the prosecutors are not going for the death penalty, as they felt that the public would best be served by her serving life in prison; if indeed she is convicted of the murder of her 2 year old toddler.
It is heartbreaking to know that a parent is even capable of such an evil act. What is more heartbreaking is wondering if Caylee was aware of what was happening; and, if it is true that her mother caused her death…whether she knew who was causing her harm. Earlier reports said that Casey Anthony had done internet searches on using Choloraform. Whatever happened, it is a sad thing all around. There are always plenty of adoptive homes that are ready, willing and able to care for a child such as Caylee. Murder should never be an option; especially when it sounds as if Caylee’s parents would have gladly cared for Caylee.
As many grieve for Caylee…let’s remember those who were closest to her; those who loved her and cared for her. Will there ever be enough information given to the public to understand why Caylee’s life was taken? Probably not…however, any honest information would be welcome to those of us who have heavy hearts when we think about the death of Caylee. It should never have happened! Does her picture call out to anyone else out there? She had a short life but made a big impact on alot of people.
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Posted in abuse, adoption, baby, children, emotions, Fear, giving, kids, life, loss, love, pregnancy, tagged bedrest, birth, born, child, danger, giver of life, God, husband, infertility, loss, love, married, miracle, miscarriage, mother, mystery, pregnancy, stillbirth, wife, womb on December 18, 2008|
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Got a call for a prayer request today for a young woman, recently married, who is 5 weeks pregnant and having severe pains. Of course that is never good when you are expecting. In the last several months, we have known several women who are expecting who were in the same situation. Their pregnancies were in jeparody.
My own daughter has been in that situation twice now. It is a fearful thing to have to be on bedrest….trying to buy more time for the child in the womb…just to get them to a safe time in the pregnancy to be born. God is the giver of life…and he is the protector of life. We dont know the mind of God regarding these things. But, it is a miracle that from the time that the mother is aware of the life inside her…she has the ability to bond with that child; sight unseen. Why are some children conceived and are miscarried or lost shortly after birth? I don’t know. Why are some people allowed to carrying a child to term only to abandon it or abuse it? I don’t know. Why is it that some people who desperately want a child are denied the opportunity due to infertility issues? I don’t know. Why are so many babies lost to abortion? I don’t know. Why are some children unwanted? I don’t know.
I have pondered the mysteries of such issues when my husband and I lost two pregnancies ourselves. Those are questions that we just don’t know the answers to at this time. All I know is that God loves us and wants the best for us. I pray for this young woman and her child…I know the fear and anxiety. I also know that she wants to bring this child into the world. Let’s hope that she gets to greet this child at his/her moment of birth and is able to give thanks to the giver of life!
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Posted in abandonment, abortion, adoption, anti-abortion, baby, children, culture, death, emotions, encouragement, failure, Faith, family, fathers, finances, foster parenting, future, giving, Heart, hopes, kids, law enforcement, legal, life, loneliness, loss, love, mental and physical health, mom, MONEY, mother, news, of connections, opinion, pain and misery, parenting, pregnancy, relationships, sadness, success, Teen Pregnancy, teens, well-being, writing for children, tagged abandonment, abortion, acceptance, adopted, adoptive, baby, birth, bonding, Charlotte, child, children, circumstances, connection, cry, death, emotions, encouragement, failure, family, fault, foster, generations, gift, giver, God, Heart, hope, Impact, infant, legal system, life, love, mental and physical health, MONEY, newborn, normal, North Carolina, parenting skills, parents, purpose, read, receiver, reflection, rejection, story, successful, system, world on November 15, 2008|
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Baby don’t cry…it is not your fault. When you are old enough to know your story…know that it is not your fault. It has happened for generations…people abandon their children. It is wrong, but they do it for many reasons…all sad reasons, all heartbreaking…but, what it comes down to is a lacking.
A lacking of something that is required to parent you little one. Some parents are lacking money, some are lacking appropriate housing or clothing, some are lacking parenting skills. Even worse, some are lacking a very basic, important connection…a bonding of parent to child; it is called love. This is not normal. This is not your fault. The lacking is theirs and theirs alone; don’t let it define you. Their failure to provide what you need does not wipe away your right to have those things that children need to grow and be whole. You deserve to have what every child should have…love and acceptance.
There are many who would adopt you; love you and give you everything you need to be successful in life. It is sad that your birth parents could not for whatever reason of lacking, be the people to give you what you need. However, when you are able to read and understand it all…hopefully, you will have been adopted and cared for appropriately. I hope that you received that love; and, now know that you are part of a family who wanted you, and needed you to be part of them. The parts of you that feel empty or unfulfilled, because of the unknowns about your birth family, probably will never be fully satisfied. Let it be enough to know that the circumstances that lead to your being abandonned are not a statement of anything that was wrong with you as a person.
A small newborn child was abandoned in Charlotte, North Carolina in the last few days. Children are being abandoned all around the world. There are many who would love these children were they to enter into the foster/adoptive legal system in the right kind of way. Why are parents dumping their children?
When you are able to read this, or some other piece that addresses such issues…and you have learned about your abandonment; don’t try to seek further information. It will only hurt you more. There are no answers that will satisfy your heart’s desire to be loved and accepted by the people who gave you up. For each answer that is given to justify such actions will just trigger another “what if you had done this or that…could you have kept me then” question. It is a never ending circle of emotional hurt.
It is not a reflection upon you…babies and children are easy to love. You have done nothing wrong to be rejected…it is a fault inside of that person that by some miracle was able to give you life. Unfortunately, abortion (infant death) is an option in today’s world..so, choosing life was a very positive thing. Maybe that is the most that they had to give you; LIFE, it IS an important gift.
Your true source of life comes from God above. You are here in this world because he values you…you are here for a purpose. Discover what your purpose is and live it to the fullest…do not be destroyed by feelings of rejection or inferority. You are worthy of all the best that life has to give you. Your beginnings do not have to set a negative standard for the rest of your life. Take your gift and all that you have been able to receive and enjoy since the time of your birth and make something of yourself. Be a giver, be an encourager…be the embodiement of what your birth parents lacked. Be a giver and a receiver of Love. Do you think that the impact of your birth can make a positive difference in the world? I do, every life has value to offer the world. Reader, do you know someone who has been rejected or abandoned…were they able to turn their difficult beginnings into a positive, productive life?
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