Posted in accomplishments, charity, children, comfort, commitment, communication, compassion, cooking, culture, death, disease, Education, elderly, encouragement, family, finances, flu, giving, health, help, ideas, illness, Impact, inspiration, kids, leadership, life, medical, medicine, MONEY, news, observations, poverty, responsibility, safety, schools, sickness, support, travel, well-being, tagged Atlanta, Center for Disease Control, charity, Derreck Kayongo, disease prevention, donate, Georgia, giving, Global Soap Project, help, illness, poverty, save lives, save soap, sickness, Write Where You Are Blog on June 22, 2011|
Leave a Comment »
In America we take so many things for granted. If we get sick, we go to the pharmacy and pick up over the counter medication that can help us get well. Other times, we go to the doctor and get prescription medicine to help us get well from an infection or sickness. We are blessed. We have instant access to information to help keep ourselves well.
The best thing is that we have been taught that washing our hands well with soap can help to keep us healthy. We have access to soap and water on a regular basis. Not everyone is so lucky. What they don’t know and don’t have access to can harm them or kill them. Soap and water save lives and there is a Global Soap Project that you may not be aware of to get soap into the hands of people who are in need of it, to stay well. To continue click here.
Read Full Post »
Posted in abuse, anger, children, crime, culture, death, domestic violence, elderly, emergency, emotions, family, Fear, finances, Frustration, grief, health, kids, law enforcement, life, loneliness, loss, mental and physical health, murder, news, observations, organizations for special needs, pain and misery, protect, sadness, safety, television, trauma, Uncategorized, violence, tagged anger, at risk, birthday, books, cost, crime, death, elderly, entertainment, Evil, hero, innocent, kids, law enforcement, loners, media, mental health, mentally ill, movies, murder, music, police officer, programs, revenge, sadness, safety, shootings, slasher, society, stabbing, television, trauma, treatment, victims, violence on March 31, 2009|
1 Comment »
When are people going to wake up to the fact that we need to stop allowing instances of evil and violence to be glorified on television, movies, books and in our music? Isn’t it obvious that the world has been turning this garbage into “entertainment” and that it is having a terrible influence on our society? Today there was two distinctive situations that destroyed lives that is shockingly cruel in the fact that the victims of violence were totally innocent.
A nursing home in Carthage, North Carolina has 8 dead people , 7 residents and a nurse, because a young man came into the nursing home and started shooting at people. The reason is unclear at this point. It is alleged that his estranged wife works at this nursing home although that is not confirmed. An unprovoked attack on innocent people that would have been much worse had it not been for the heroic actions of a 25 year old police officer who was able to stop the shooter. While the news media covers these terrible bursts of violence…we must learn to carefully balance how these things are addressed in the media; so that they do not become gloried examples for those with similar thoughts.
Another equally upsetting situation; an ex-con attacks his sisters and kills two of them…one a five year old child on her birthday. He kills his 17 year old sister by brutally stabbing her…then, he goes after the five year old and decapitates her as the police come in. She is found near her birthday cake. The nine year old sister had called the officers…some how she was stabbed as well; she is in the hospital with injuries. Not only has she been injured, she lost members of her family and she has to live with the images of death and violence. This brother was clearly a person out of control; it was alleged that he had some kind of a run-in with a neighbor the evening before as well.
We have people who dont know how to resolve their personal problems…committing violence and killing innocent people. We have loners, and mentally ill people who do not get treatment. Our economy is so tight that those who desperately need mental health treatment do not get it because of cost. We need to seriously consider spending more money for preventative well-care programs for people at risk for such behaviors.
I would really like to see people stop supporting slasher/shoot them up shows and movies with their dollars. These type of entertainments only serve to encourage those who are bent on venting their anger and revenge or for those who are mentally unstable on taking out their rage on innocent people. How do you protect yourself and your loved ones from random violence? It is impossible. Is anyone else sick and tired of these things happening in schools, shopping malls, nursing homes and colleges, etc?
I have moved to a new Url: WriteWhereYouAre if you are interested in reading more of my blog posts!
Read Full Post »
Posted in abuse, anger, attitude, birth, celebrity, charity, children, commitment, communication, compassion, control, courage, crime, culture, denial, domestic violence, Education, emotions, Fame, family, Fear, friendship, Frustration, grandchildren, health, Heart, help, Impact, kids, law enforcement, leadership, legal, life, loneliness, loss, love, loyalty, medical, mental and physical health, MONEY, news, observations, opinion, pain and misery, parenting, power, relationships, respect, safety, self doubt, support, teens, trauma, trust, tagged abused, abuser, awakening, beatings, celebrity, child, children, compassion, control, counselors, cycle of abuse, danger, denial, dependency, destroy, domestic abuse, donations, drug/alcohol abuse, Education, embarassment, emotional abuse, escalation, family, Fear, financial, freedom, friend, grandchildren, healthy relationships, help, intervention, intimidation, isolation, job loss, learned behaviors, loyalty, MONEY, neighbor, parent, parenting, parents, patterns of behavior, police, professionals, reasons, relationships, responses, safety, safety plan, secrets, self esteem, sexual abuse, shame, shelters, sibling, skills, support, tax dollars, threatened, Time, treatment, triggers, trust, unhealthy, used cell phones, verbal abuse, victim, violence on March 12, 2009|
1 Comment »
This subject is never a pleasant one. No one likes to acknowledge domestic abuse is a way of life…especially if it is happening within their own life. Unfortunately, domestic abuse happens every day in a multitude of ways. It doesn’t just happen in the lives of the poor, the rich, or the celebrity world; even though, that is often the stories that we hear about…those who are famous. We must awaken to the facts of domestic abuse; it is often learned behaviors that are used to control another person…either with intimidation, physical violence, emotional abuse or sexual abuse.
Domestic abuse is like cancer…it is constantly trying to destroy the people involved. It is a pattern of behavior that affect both the abuser and the person being abused. Many who are being abused do not recognize that what is happening in their lives is actually domestic abuse. The reasons for their lack of understanding, or denial are many. (more…)
Read Full Post »
Posted in abuse, anger, career, celebrity, crime, emotions, Fame, family, Fear, help, Impact, law enforcement, legal, life, mental and physical health, MONEY, music, news, observations, pain and misery, power, relationships, safety, stress, teens, television, violence, well-being, tagged abuse, Chris Brown, control, domestic violence, fans, felony charges, Grammy Awards, help, injuries, performers, relationships, reports, Rihanna, role models, singers, threats on February 10, 2009|
1 Comment »
Both Chris Brown and his girlfriend, Rihanna, were scheduled to be performers on the Grammy Awards show last night. They did not show up. Today, word comes out in news reports that Chris Brown is being accused of a domestic violence assault, of an undeclared female who allegedly Id’ed him as the abuser; this is a felony, if convicted.
It is alledged that Chris Brown and his girlfriend Rihanna were driving and got into an argument and stopped the vehicle. Allegedly both exited the vehicle and continued the argument. The argument became heated and someone placed an emergency call to 911. When the police arrived they found the victim at the scene of the altercation. Chris Brown had allegedly left the area. The victim had visible injuries.
Chris Brown has been booked for making criminal threats and it is alledged that there could be more charges filed in the future. He posted a large amount of bail and was released. The spokesperson for Rihanna did not confirm or deny reports…supposedly just expressed Rihanna’s well being, and thanked everyone for their concern.
I remember for quite some time at the beginning of their relationship, it was kept hush- hush about the rumors of their romance. Chris is only 19 years old and Rihanna is 20; if this domestic assault did indeed happen between these two, it is going to have long reaching consequences. Domestic violence is a huge problem; it affects everyone, whether personally or through someone that they know. It’s an issue that destroys many lives.
It doesn’t help that as public figures, both Chris and Rihanna, are viewed as role models. Because of their fans, many will be watching this situation closely. Of course there is concern for both party’s well-being; at the same time, how they handle this situation personally and professionlly, will be important.
Domestic violence can never be condoned. Often times, drugs or alcohol play a part, as well as stress, anger issues, and financial strains. Those are underlying causes for many instances of domestic violence; but, they should never be a justification for harming another person.
If this alledged assualt is swept under the rug by the PR machine, it will do a grave disservice to both men and women. Teens and young adults, who are aware of this situation, will be learning from it. What they learn will be determined by how it is handled by both Chris Brown and the victim…whoever she is. The seriousness of it should not be spun by those trying to minimize the professional damage to the entertainers…it is more important to address the issues for both of them; they are so young and they have their whole lives ahead of them. It would be wrong to allow this alledged incident to be downgraded to a misunderstanding if there truly was domestic violence. None of us were there and know what really happened…hopefully, there will be healing for everyone involved.
There are so many layers of emotions involved for family members, friends and the general public as well as those involved in a domestic dispute. Counseling is helpful, support of family and friends who are informed and not enablers is crucial. Getting professional help when dealing with these issues is a healthy way to work through them and prevent them from becoming a pattern in personal relationships; it may just save someone’s life.
Often domestic violence is about power and control. Those two issues are present in every relationship; how those issues are addressed is important they can be handled in a healthy way or they can be ignored allowing a dangerous situation to get out of control. Domestic violence is being abused, used, overwhelmed, intimidated, coerced, controlled or humiliated; that is when the balance of the relationship crosses over into dysfunction. For anyone experiencing an abusive or dyfunctional relationship there is help available: http://www.ndvh.org/ . Please reach out for help, because often these thing get worse as time goes on. No one wants to be in that situation…please get help before it is too late.
Read Full Post »
Posted in Business, career, celebrity, children, control, emotions, entertainment, Fame, family, fathers, Fear, finances, kids, legal, life, media, mental and physical health, MONEY, mother, news, observations, parenting, protect, relationships, safety, well-being, tagged behavior, breach of contract, breaking new, Britney Spears, business dealings, children, claims, concern, contact, control, court, defamed, intimidation, Jamie Spears, legal, Lynne Spears, MONEY, observations, parents, relationship, restraining order, Sam Lufti, tour on February 4, 2009|
Leave a Comment »
Breaking news today that the infamous Sam Lufti who is Britney Spears former manager is suing both Britney and both of her parents; he is claiming that they have defamed him and claiming breach of contract. Going back to last year when Britney was having the worst year of her life…the news was peppered with comments of worry relating to Sam Lufti’s relationship with Britney.
Her parents were alledging that he had too much control over Britney and that he had allegedly confided in Britney’s mother Lynne that he gave her “medications”. Britney was exhibiting behavior that had everyone concerned for her well-being and that of her children. Britney’s father Jamie went to court and got legal control over Britney’s finances and business dealings; effectively removing anyone with suspected ulterior motives from unauthorized access to Brit’s money or to Britney herself.
Sam Lufti is now claiming that Jamie and Lynne have combined efforts to lie about him and have used intimidation to remove him from Britney’s life. I don’t think that the Spears’ have tried to hide the fact that they believe that Sam Lufti should have no contact with Britney; since they went to court to limit his contact with her. They were very concerned about their daughter and did what they felt was best to protect her and guard her safety and emotional well-being. Sam Lufti says he feels he had no choice but to file suit against them in their campaign to smear his name. Britney, after being hospitalized twice and having her father take over conservatorship of her legal and business affairs has made a miraculous recovery. She has regained the ability to visit with her children and to perform onstage before her fans with confidence, once again.
Jamie Spears has again gone to the courts, recently, to file a restraining order because of what he says are attempts by Sam Lufti and others in regards to the harassment of the Spears family. I would presume that they would have evidence to back up that claim, or he would not have gone through the inconvience and cost of going to the court to file charges.
The timing of this latest difficulty for the Spears family comes close to the beginning of Britney’s new tour which is scheduled to begin next month. The tour promises to make lots of money and I would not be surprised if Sam Lufti, as her former manager, feels that he would have been benefitting from the profits of such business dealings; if he had not been removed from contact with Britney Spears.
Read Full Post »
Posted in children, death, divorce, emotions, family, fathers, Frustration, future, grandchildren, Heart, help, home, kids, law enforcement, life, loss, love, marriage, media, mental and physical health, mother, murder, news, observations, opinion, pain and misery, parenting, Passion, power, protect, relationships, safety, teens, trust, Uncategorized, well-being, wife, tagged attention, behaviors, Christina Raines, circus, con job, control, danger, divorce, Drew Peterson, Ernie Raines, fiances, grandchildren, happily ever after, Heart, infidelity, interview, life, marriages, Martin Bashir, media, missing, moves out, murder, news, Nightline, police, power, protect, relationships, saved, trust, undercover, wives, women, young on January 31, 2009|
1 Comment »
Christina Raines is the young woman who had recently moved in with her fiance, Drew Peterson. Drew Peterson, if you will remember, is the former police officer who has been a suspect in the disappearance of his fourth wife and also was under suspicion in the death of his third wife. Drew did an interview, with Martin Bashir of ABC’s news program Nightline, that aired on Thursday night. Drew and Christina viewed the interview together, at which point…she allegedly called him a liar, broke up with him and moved out.
Everyone has been concerned for her safety and that of the well-being of her children, that moved in with her and Drew. By moving out…she may have very well saved her life and her sanity from living in a fishbowl. To listen to Drew tell it; he is addicted to new romances…what kind of a relationship can survive that, long term? No woman wants to think she is just a number standing in line; to enjoy her turn at the romance department…only to be replaced by someone younger and more exciting; if real life gets in the way of the newness of their romance.
I saw part of that interview, Drew comes across as trying to be very charismatic and at the same time…condescending. He appears to like the attention of the public and he appears to like the fact that people fear/and are fascinated by him. He made comments alluding to the fact that “young women are drawn” to him. They seek him out he said and, even sometimes flirt with him or sit on his lap. He tells the interviewer that he likes the attention of the young women…he likes falling in love. Drew also said that when his relationships start to lose their excitement…that is when he is drawn to other women. His relationships/marriages have failed in the past because of this.
Christina’s father, Ernie Raines has been trying to enlist the help of the local police department, trying to make sure that his daughter and grandchildren are ok. He made no secret of the fact that he does not trust Drew Peterson. I think that many people can understand and support those feelings. Ernie helped Christina move out…Drew did not want to let him in the house and Ernie had to once again call the police. Good job Ernie for being persistant; if you feel your children are in danger…you do what you have to-to protect them.
You have to wonder about the emotional well-being of Drew’s younger children that he had with Staci…his wife that is missing. How must it be for them to be growing up in a home that is constantly watched and a place that must be under alot of stress because of that suspicion. Not to mention…those children have been deprived of their mother…for whatever reason she is missing…they have suffered a great loss.
In watching the interview, I felt repulsed listening to him go on and on about how much he enjoys the attentions of the young women that he meets and has met in the past (in bars). It comes across to me as a young, immature male teen bragging on his conquests. It all appears as a game…one that matches his wit and his ability to con those around him. He was an undercover police officer for a 5 year period and he allegedly made statements, in the past, about how he loved to see the faces of the people who were arrested once they found out that he was a police officer who conned them with his disquises. The interview felt to me, like it was just another con job that floated his boat…one that tested his ability to still fool those that he wishes, with whatever story he chooses to tell.
I say to Ernie Raines…enjoy your relationship with your daughter…spend time listening to her. I hope that she is able to heal her heart and realize just how much better off she is away from the media circus that she was living in with her relationship with Drew Peterson. At the same time, she might want to spend a little time in counseling trying to discover what it was about that relationship that made her feel like she was making a good decision for her future and that of her children. Best of luck! Women…where there is smoke there is fire…you can’t change a person that you are attracted to…you cant “fix” their problems…you can’t be all things to one person…and you can’t live with the shadow of missing wives, alleged murders, infidelities, and controlling behaviors; and live happily ever-after!
Read Full Post »