Have you ever known someone who is in a totally disfunctional relationship and just seems destined to repeat patterns of negative and destructive behaviors? I was thinking on this last night with a young teenaged couple that i know. They spend all of their time together…fighting…hurting…crying…begging…breaking up…for-giving….manipulating…emotional arm wrestling…isolating…and starting all over again. They are on the phone…or in person…tuning everyone else out..until they self-destruct. Then, the explosion, they want everyone to feel their pain. When counseled…all they can think about is “fixing it” and getting back together. They get back together all right…but nothing ever gets fixed. It is an emotional war that definately takes prisoners.
Then today, someone else that i care about deeply…has decided to once again go up for a heaping dose of all you can eat at the salad bar of pain and abuse. Taking a little taste of negativity, nibbling on a chunk of guilt large enough to choke a horse, a dip of put downs and innuendo, a spoonful of diced self esteem, add a sprinkling of despair, a serving sized dollop of loneliness, add a slice of isolation, a bowl of anger, and lets not forget a huge serving of accusation. Hey, you’ve already paid the price…there is no limitation on how much you can have…it is there if you only want more. (more…)
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