Posted in abuse, anger, attitude, birth, celebrity, charity, children, commitment, communication, compassion, control, courage, crime, culture, denial, domestic violence, Education, emotions, Fame, family, Fear, friendship, Frustration, grandchildren, health, Heart, help, Impact, kids, law enforcement, leadership, legal, life, loneliness, loss, love, loyalty, medical, mental and physical health, MONEY, news, observations, opinion, pain and misery, parenting, power, relationships, respect, safety, self doubt, support, teens, trauma, trust, tagged abused, abuser, awakening, beatings, celebrity, child, children, compassion, control, counselors, cycle of abuse, danger, denial, dependency, destroy, domestic abuse, donations, drug/alcohol abuse, Education, embarassment, emotional abuse, escalation, family, Fear, financial, freedom, friend, grandchildren, healthy relationships, help, intervention, intimidation, isolation, job loss, learned behaviors, loyalty, MONEY, neighbor, parent, parenting, parents, patterns of behavior, police, professionals, reasons, relationships, responses, safety, safety plan, secrets, self esteem, sexual abuse, shame, shelters, sibling, skills, support, tax dollars, threatened, Time, treatment, triggers, trust, unhealthy, used cell phones, verbal abuse, victim, violence on March 12, 2009|
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This subject is never a pleasant one. No one likes to acknowledge domestic abuse is a way of life…especially if it is happening within their own life. Unfortunately, domestic abuse happens every day in a multitude of ways. It doesn’t just happen in the lives of the poor, the rich, or the celebrity world; even though, that is often the stories that we hear about…those who are famous. We must awaken to the facts of domestic abuse; it is often learned behaviors that are used to control another person…either with intimidation, physical violence, emotional abuse or sexual abuse.
Domestic abuse is like cancer…it is constantly trying to destroy the people involved. It is a pattern of behavior that affect both the abuser and the person being abused. Many who are being abused do not recognize that what is happening in their lives is actually domestic abuse. The reasons for their lack of understanding, or denial are many. (more…)
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Posted in adoption, baby, birth, celebrity, children, divorce, entertainment, Faith, Fame, family, kids, life, marriage, music, news, observations, opinion, parenting, pregnancy, relationships, tagged adopted, baby, band, blessings, celebrity, children, commitment, divorced, Fame, family, foundation, God, Harlow, joel madden, life, married, news, nicole richie, Oscar, parenting, parents, pregnancy, role models, young people on February 23, 2009|
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Today it was announced on Joel Madden’s bands website that he and Nicole are adding to their family. Their daughter Harlow is going to have a younger sibling. Having children who are close in age is good for the children; but, can be a little rough on the parents. However, Joel says that finding out that they are expecting another child is better than an Oscar!
With their daughter Harlow just over 1 year old and a second child on the way; one wonders whether they will get married? Nicole’s adopted parents divorced when she was young so maybe that plays a part in not having legalized her relationship with Joel…but, there is no greater commitment than having a child together; so hopefully, they will get married soon. Joel’s father, allegedly left his family and they struggled because of it. So, maybe fear and trust are big issues for this young couple in love.
God says that to those whom much is given, much is expected in return. Both Nicole and Joel have had many blessings in their lives. I like the fact that they started the Richie Madden Children’s Foundation to help children. Joel also says that God has blessed his family. I do wish since so many young people look up to them as role models that they would get married in the eyes of God so that they could realize the fullness of God’s blessings!
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Posted in Business, career, celebrity, children, control, emotions, entertainment, Fame, family, fathers, Fear, finances, kids, legal, life, media, mental and physical health, MONEY, mother, news, observations, parenting, protect, relationships, safety, well-being, tagged behavior, breach of contract, breaking new, Britney Spears, business dealings, children, claims, concern, contact, control, court, defamed, intimidation, Jamie Spears, legal, Lynne Spears, MONEY, observations, parents, relationship, restraining order, Sam Lufti, tour on February 4, 2009|
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Breaking news today that the infamous Sam Lufti who is Britney Spears former manager is suing both Britney and both of her parents; he is claiming that they have defamed him and claiming breach of contract. Going back to last year when Britney was having the worst year of her life…the news was peppered with comments of worry relating to Sam Lufti’s relationship with Britney.
Her parents were alledging that he had too much control over Britney and that he had allegedly confided in Britney’s mother Lynne that he gave her “medications”. Britney was exhibiting behavior that had everyone concerned for her well-being and that of her children. Britney’s father Jamie went to court and got legal control over Britney’s finances and business dealings; effectively removing anyone with suspected ulterior motives from unauthorized access to Brit’s money or to Britney herself.
Sam Lufti is now claiming that Jamie and Lynne have combined efforts to lie about him and have used intimidation to remove him from Britney’s life. I don’t think that the Spears’ have tried to hide the fact that they believe that Sam Lufti should have no contact with Britney; since they went to court to limit his contact with her. They were very concerned about their daughter and did what they felt was best to protect her and guard her safety and emotional well-being. Sam Lufti says he feels he had no choice but to file suit against them in their campaign to smear his name. Britney, after being hospitalized twice and having her father take over conservatorship of her legal and business affairs has made a miraculous recovery. She has regained the ability to visit with her children and to perform onstage before her fans with confidence, once again.
Jamie Spears has again gone to the courts, recently, to file a restraining order because of what he says are attempts by Sam Lufti and others in regards to the harassment of the Spears family. I would presume that they would have evidence to back up that claim, or he would not have gone through the inconvience and cost of going to the court to file charges.
The timing of this latest difficulty for the Spears family comes close to the beginning of Britney’s new tour which is scheduled to begin next month. The tour promises to make lots of money and I would not be surprised if Sam Lufti, as her former manager, feels that he would have been benefitting from the profits of such business dealings; if he had not been removed from contact with Britney Spears.
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Posted in abandonment, abortion, adoption, anti-abortion, baby, children, culture, death, emotions, encouragement, failure, Faith, family, fathers, finances, foster parenting, future, giving, Heart, hopes, kids, law enforcement, legal, life, loneliness, loss, love, mental and physical health, mom, MONEY, mother, news, of connections, opinion, pain and misery, parenting, pregnancy, relationships, sadness, success, Teen Pregnancy, teens, well-being, writing for children, tagged abandonment, abortion, acceptance, adopted, adoptive, baby, birth, bonding, Charlotte, child, children, circumstances, connection, cry, death, emotions, encouragement, failure, family, fault, foster, generations, gift, giver, God, Heart, hope, Impact, infant, legal system, life, love, mental and physical health, MONEY, newborn, normal, North Carolina, parenting skills, parents, purpose, read, receiver, reflection, rejection, story, successful, system, world on November 15, 2008|
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Baby don’t cry…it is not your fault. When you are old enough to know your story…know that it is not your fault. It has happened for generations…people abandon their children. It is wrong, but they do it for many reasons…all sad reasons, all heartbreaking…but, what it comes down to is a lacking.
A lacking of something that is required to parent you little one. Some parents are lacking money, some are lacking appropriate housing or clothing, some are lacking parenting skills. Even worse, some are lacking a very basic, important connection…a bonding of parent to child; it is called love. This is not normal. This is not your fault. The lacking is theirs and theirs alone; don’t let it define you. Their failure to provide what you need does not wipe away your right to have those things that children need to grow and be whole. You deserve to have what every child should have…love and acceptance.
There are many who would adopt you; love you and give you everything you need to be successful in life. It is sad that your birth parents could not for whatever reason of lacking, be the people to give you what you need. However, when you are able to read and understand it all…hopefully, you will have been adopted and cared for appropriately. I hope that you received that love; and, now know that you are part of a family who wanted you, and needed you to be part of them. The parts of you that feel empty or unfulfilled, because of the unknowns about your birth family, probably will never be fully satisfied. Let it be enough to know that the circumstances that lead to your being abandonned are not a statement of anything that was wrong with you as a person.
A small newborn child was abandoned in Charlotte, North Carolina in the last few days. Children are being abandoned all around the world. There are many who would love these children were they to enter into the foster/adoptive legal system in the right kind of way. Why are parents dumping their children?
When you are able to read this, or some other piece that addresses such issues…and you have learned about your abandonment; don’t try to seek further information. It will only hurt you more. There are no answers that will satisfy your heart’s desire to be loved and accepted by the people who gave you up. For each answer that is given to justify such actions will just trigger another “what if you had done this or that…could you have kept me then” question. It is a never ending circle of emotional hurt.
It is not a reflection upon you…babies and children are easy to love. You have done nothing wrong to be rejected…it is a fault inside of that person that by some miracle was able to give you life. Unfortunately, abortion (infant death) is an option in today’s world..so, choosing life was a very positive thing. Maybe that is the most that they had to give you; LIFE, it IS an important gift.
Your true source of life comes from God above. You are here in this world because he values you…you are here for a purpose. Discover what your purpose is and live it to the fullest…do not be destroyed by feelings of rejection or inferority. You are worthy of all the best that life has to give you. Your beginnings do not have to set a negative standard for the rest of your life. Take your gift and all that you have been able to receive and enjoy since the time of your birth and make something of yourself. Be a giver, be an encourager…be the embodiement of what your birth parents lacked. Be a giver and a receiver of Love. Do you think that the impact of your birth can make a positive difference in the world? I do, every life has value to offer the world. Reader, do you know someone who has been rejected or abandoned…were they able to turn their difficult beginnings into a positive, productive life?
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