Posted in abuse, anger, children, crime, culture, death, domestic violence, elderly, emergency, emotions, family, Fear, finances, Frustration, grief, health, kids, law enforcement, life, loneliness, loss, mental and physical health, murder, news, observations, organizations for special needs, pain and misery, protect, sadness, safety, television, trauma, Uncategorized, violence, tagged anger, at risk, birthday, books, cost, crime, death, elderly, entertainment, Evil, hero, innocent, kids, law enforcement, loners, media, mental health, mentally ill, movies, murder, music, police officer, programs, revenge, sadness, safety, shootings, slasher, society, stabbing, television, trauma, treatment, victims, violence on March 31, 2009|
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When are people going to wake up to the fact that we need to stop allowing instances of evil and violence to be glorified on television, movies, books and in our music? Isn’t it obvious that the world has been turning this garbage into “entertainment” and that it is having a terrible influence on our society? Today there was two distinctive situations that destroyed lives that is shockingly cruel in the fact that the victims of violence were totally innocent.
A nursing home in Carthage, North Carolina has 8 dead people , 7 residents and a nurse, because a young man came into the nursing home and started shooting at people. The reason is unclear at this point. It is alleged that his estranged wife works at this nursing home although that is not confirmed. An unprovoked attack on innocent people that would have been much worse had it not been for the heroic actions of a 25 year old police officer who was able to stop the shooter. While the news media covers these terrible bursts of violence…we must learn to carefully balance how these things are addressed in the media; so that they do not become gloried examples for those with similar thoughts.
Another equally upsetting situation; an ex-con attacks his sisters and kills two of them…one a five year old child on her birthday. He kills his 17 year old sister by brutally stabbing her…then, he goes after the five year old and decapitates her as the police come in. She is found near her birthday cake. The nine year old sister had called the officers…some how she was stabbed as well; she is in the hospital with injuries. Not only has she been injured, she lost members of her family and she has to live with the images of death and violence. This brother was clearly a person out of control; it was alleged that he had some kind of a run-in with a neighbor the evening before as well.
We have people who dont know how to resolve their personal problems…committing violence and killing innocent people. We have loners, and mentally ill people who do not get treatment. Our economy is so tight that those who desperately need mental health treatment do not get it because of cost. We need to seriously consider spending more money for preventative well-care programs for people at risk for such behaviors.
I would really like to see people stop supporting slasher/shoot them up shows and movies with their dollars. These type of entertainments only serve to encourage those who are bent on venting their anger and revenge or for those who are mentally unstable on taking out their rage on innocent people. How do you protect yourself and your loved ones from random violence? It is impossible. Is anyone else sick and tired of these things happening in schools, shopping malls, nursing homes and colleges, etc?
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Posted in abuse, anger, attitude, birth, celebrity, charity, children, commitment, communication, compassion, control, courage, crime, culture, denial, domestic violence, Education, emotions, Fame, family, Fear, friendship, Frustration, grandchildren, health, Heart, help, Impact, kids, law enforcement, leadership, legal, life, loneliness, loss, love, loyalty, medical, mental and physical health, MONEY, news, observations, opinion, pain and misery, parenting, power, relationships, respect, safety, self doubt, support, teens, trauma, trust, tagged abused, abuser, awakening, beatings, celebrity, child, children, compassion, control, counselors, cycle of abuse, danger, denial, dependency, destroy, domestic abuse, donations, drug/alcohol abuse, Education, embarassment, emotional abuse, escalation, family, Fear, financial, freedom, friend, grandchildren, healthy relationships, help, intervention, intimidation, isolation, job loss, learned behaviors, loyalty, MONEY, neighbor, parent, parenting, parents, patterns of behavior, police, professionals, reasons, relationships, responses, safety, safety plan, secrets, self esteem, sexual abuse, shame, shelters, sibling, skills, support, tax dollars, threatened, Time, treatment, triggers, trust, unhealthy, used cell phones, verbal abuse, victim, violence on March 12, 2009|
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This subject is never a pleasant one. No one likes to acknowledge domestic abuse is a way of life…especially if it is happening within their own life. Unfortunately, domestic abuse happens every day in a multitude of ways. It doesn’t just happen in the lives of the poor, the rich, or the celebrity world; even though, that is often the stories that we hear about…those who are famous. We must awaken to the facts of domestic abuse; it is often learned behaviors that are used to control another person…either with intimidation, physical violence, emotional abuse or sexual abuse.
Domestic abuse is like cancer…it is constantly trying to destroy the people involved. It is a pattern of behavior that affect both the abuser and the person being abused. Many who are being abused do not recognize that what is happening in their lives is actually domestic abuse. The reasons for their lack of understanding, or denial are many. (more…)
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Posted in Beauty, Descriptive Words, life, observations, safety, tagged blast, cold, safety, snow, winds, winter weather on December 16, 2008|
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Here in Michigan, we have had more than our share of wild and wacky weather of late. We received, in a couple of days time, well more than 18-20 inches of snow in one dumping. It was beautiful but destructive. Now, we are going from an overnight temperature of a (unusually warm temperature) of 44 degrees…down into the teens today, with well over 40 mile an hour winds, this after rain and snow melt all night.
This will produce great danger of ice and travel difficulties. Other states have been hit with the arctic blast of winds, snow, sleet and rain; many people loosing their electric and ability to heat their homes.
In the best of situations, people can be prepared for these types of situations. This time it has caught me a bit unprepared. I am sure that i am not the only one. However, we are going to settle in and do our best to stay warm and dry. It is important to take safety measures when you live in winter wonderland areas during this time of year!
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Posted in accomplishments, armed forces, birthday, commitment, courage, family, Honor, life, military, Patriotism, respect, service, support, well-being, tagged action, armed forces, bravery, civilians, commitment, courage, danger, family, fire, heros, Holiday, Marine, Marine Corps Birthday, men, military, respect, risk, sacrifice, safety, Semper Fi, serve, service, support, well-being, willingness, women on November 11, 2008|
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Today is the Marine Corps birthday…hope it is a great one for all of our men and women in the Corps. God bless you for all of your sacrifices for us civilians. For those serving overseas we thank you and we appreciate you. To all of the Marines who serve here at home on U.S. soil…your sacrifice is also appreciated. May you have safety and well-being till you are stateside and home again with your family & loved ones!
Quite often on the news, all we hear about is those who dishonor the Corps or who choose to perpetrate violence outside of war. Those stories put a black mark on the minds of people who don’t have personal knowledge of the quality of most Marines. I want to acknowledge the fact that there are more men and women who serve the United States in good standing; than there are who fail to act honorably. Just by living their lives decently and serving when called upon to do so…they are heros. It takes courage & commitment to serve in the armed forces. They risk life and limb and deserve respect for what they give during their time in the military. We need to honor them and support them; not just at the holiday time…but, year round. Support their family members who sacrifice alot as well…by being seperated from their service person.
This week, several Marines made the news with their heroic actions by saving many people staying in a hotel when they discovered that the hotel was on fire. They immediately went into action and alerted the hotel guests to the fire and told them to evacuate. One Marine said…this is what we are trained to do…when there is danger we are trained to go in…not run away! The williness to serve, that the Corps instills in it’s personel, is nothing less than admirable. God bless each and every one. So, for those who are serving in the Corps today; or, those who have formerly served in the Corps…thank you. If you see a Marine today…tell them thank you for serving and wish them a Happy Birthday! Semper Fi
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Posted in celebrity, crime, death, emotions, Faith, family, Fear, grief, home, life, loss, missing, mom, murder, news, pain and misery, parenting, sadness, safety, trauma, tagged brother, celebrity, church, Darnell Donerson, Faith, Fame, God, grandmother, home, humanity, Jason Hudson, Jennifer Hudson, Julia, Julian King, kidnapping, loss, mind, mother, murder, neighborhood, news, nightmare, safe place, safety, soul, tragedy, trauma, uncle, violated, violence, witness on October 26, 2008|
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For those of you who have been following the tragedy of the murders in Jennifer Hudson’s family and the kidnapping of her young, seven year old nephew; think about this, what happens when your safe place, your place of foundation has been invaded or attacked? This family is going through a nightmare of epic proportions and because of fame, they are having to do it publically.
Jennifer and her sister Julia have lost their mother, Darnell Donerson and their brother, Jason Hudson; and, Julia’s son Julian is missing. This home that the murders took place in was Jennifer’s refuge from the crush of the world that she stepped into as a celebrity when her star began to rise from her singing and her acting over the last several years.
The Hudson family was and is a family of faith. Jennifer has said that she grew up in that home, that neighborhood and her home church. It is an integral part of her support system. It is part of who she is. Her mother did not want to move when her daughter became famous…they didn’t want that celebrity to change who they were as a family. Their home was the center of their family. It was where all things sprouted for them. Where they came to; to be together. It was a safe place. A place of nurturing.
What happens now; other than trying desperately to get answers to where Julian is….and what happened to their mother and their brother? Julia and Jennifer are on automatic pilot i am sure at the moment. Trying to make sense of things…hoping and praying for the safe return of Julian. But, their safe place has been invaded.
How will they ever be able to look at that home and feel what they once felt. Will it ever feel like home again? Or will they always feel loss and hurt when they look upon the face of the place that has so many memories for their family. What about Julian when he comes home…did that poor baby witness the murder of his beloved grandmother and uncle? Will he ever feel safe there again? Will he ever feel “at home” somewhere else? What does this kind of trauma do to a human mind and soul?
Many people experience such traumas in their lives…it is something that can be overcome…but, it does shake the foundation of a person/family to rebuild that sense of trust and safety. Please pray for the Hudson family…as well as, anyone else who has had to go through something so violent and traumatic. Their faith in God will help them through this time. However, they are human…and will go through much before they are able to recover and overcome. Have you ever gone through a trauma that has made your safe place feel violated or unsafe to you? How did you handle it?
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