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Mother’s Day is one of those holidays that is bittersweet for many people. All women aren’t mothers. Some individuals don’t have mothers that they remember fondly or as a mother that deserves kudos for the life she has lived. Their are birth mothers, foster mothers, adoptive mothers and mother like figures. Some of those mothers are great mothers and natural at nurturing and some mothers have issues like addictions, or emotional problems…
That being said…even those mother’s have something for which to be remembered and that is for bringing their children into the world. At the most basic level…giving life is something to honor; since not every woman who discovers she is pregnant makes the choice to give birth to her child. If you had a mother who only functioned at a bare minimum, then I hope you had another woman who filled a mother- like role in your life, encouraging, teaching, praising and loving you; someone to step in and protect you. Acknowledge that person on mother’s day and don’t let the negative emotions in regards to whether a birth mother was mother of the year or not; choose to celebrate love.
I’ve been blessed and I want to take a moment to celebrate love. A few years ago, we were told that my mother had an enlarged heart. This was traumatic as my mother was/is one of those women who loved and encouraged her children as we grew up. She continues to do this. Now her medical condition has been treated with medication and close monitoring; we are grateful for that. However, it got me to thinking about mothers who love deeply.
I thought about the changes that happen when a woman is pregnant. Her emotions change, her mind changes as she makes decisions that she feels are the best for her and her child. Hopefully, she has a loving and supportive mate to help her as she parents her child…not everyone does. A pregnant woman’s spirit changes too…she has to think beyond herself and how the life of the child she carries will be influenced by the choices she makes in life. Finally, her body changes…oh you know the usual: weight gain, swollen ankles, varicose veins…hemorrhoids…headaches and cravings. The important change I think for a woman who really wants to be a mother, is that her heart enlarges…it makes room for more love than you can imagine a heart to contain.
That love is what builds a life that can withstand problems, challenges, and negativity that is sure to come their way as they live their lives. That love is what opens the door to the good things in life that are meant to be enjoyed and nurtured. That love is what keeps the human race continuing.
I think mothers who chose to love and are loved in return should be celebrated. If you didn’t get that, from the luck of the draw, at the moment of your conception & birth…you can still find it. Everyone wants and needs that kind of love in their life. Be sensitive towards those who you know have a hard time at this time of year due to abandonment issues, abuse, neglect or due to the death of their mother figure. Be a role model and encourage those who are sad or lonely or feeling cheated in the mother department.
This world is full of women who have enlarged hearts and are willing to share them. Find someone to celebrate the good things in your life with. Whether it be as a sister, a friend, an auntie, a grandma, a daughter…a teacher, a neighbor or a pen pal; a mother’s heart can be found in a multitude of relationships. Let yourself love and be loved. Don’t let a broken biological accident of birth scar you into a negative mother’s day. Find someone who can share an enlarged heart with you…and give & receive the best that life has to offer…a truly wonderful Mother’s Day!
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Posted in abuse, anger, attitude, birth, celebrity, charity, children, commitment, communication, compassion, control, courage, crime, culture, denial, domestic violence, Education, emotions, Fame, family, Fear, friendship, Frustration, grandchildren, health, Heart, help, Impact, kids, law enforcement, leadership, legal, life, loneliness, loss, love, loyalty, medical, mental and physical health, MONEY, news, observations, opinion, pain and misery, parenting, power, relationships, respect, safety, self doubt, support, teens, trauma, trust, tagged abused, abuser, awakening, beatings, celebrity, child, children, compassion, control, counselors, cycle of abuse, danger, denial, dependency, destroy, domestic abuse, donations, drug/alcohol abuse, Education, embarassment, emotional abuse, escalation, family, Fear, financial, freedom, friend, grandchildren, healthy relationships, help, intervention, intimidation, isolation, job loss, learned behaviors, loyalty, MONEY, neighbor, parent, parenting, parents, patterns of behavior, police, professionals, reasons, relationships, responses, safety, safety plan, secrets, self esteem, sexual abuse, shame, shelters, sibling, skills, support, tax dollars, threatened, Time, treatment, triggers, trust, unhealthy, used cell phones, verbal abuse, victim, violence on March 12, 2009|
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This subject is never a pleasant one. No one likes to acknowledge domestic abuse is a way of life…especially if it is happening within their own life. Unfortunately, domestic abuse happens every day in a multitude of ways. It doesn’t just happen in the lives of the poor, the rich, or the celebrity world; even though, that is often the stories that we hear about…those who are famous. We must awaken to the facts of domestic abuse; it is often learned behaviors that are used to control another person…either with intimidation, physical violence, emotional abuse or sexual abuse.
Domestic abuse is like cancer…it is constantly trying to destroy the people involved. It is a pattern of behavior that affect both the abuser and the person being abused. Many who are being abused do not recognize that what is happening in their lives is actually domestic abuse. The reasons for their lack of understanding, or denial are many. (more…)
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Posted in abuse, death, emotions, family, Frustration, government, grief, hopes, horror, Impact, leadership, life, loss, loyalty, media, mental and physical health, military, news, observations, opinion, pain and misery, parenting, Patriotism, politics, protect, publicity, relationships, Remembering, respect, sadness, service, stress, support, tagged abuse, American, conflict, cost, death, death toll, decisions, emotions, exploitation, families, family members, feelings, George H. Bush, goals, grieving, Impact, loss, media, military, opinion, Patriotism, photos, policy, President Obama, recommendation, respect, Robert Gates, sacrifice, sadness, service personel, support, thoughts, war on February 27, 2009|
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There is a debate brewing about whether news media should have access to photograph the coffins of returning military men and women, killed in the line of duty, when their bodies are returned to Dover Air Force Base. There is strong controversy about whether this should be allowed or not. In 1991, President George H. Bush enacted a ban on the photographing of the coffins. It just was not allowed to happen, by the order of the President.
This has been a matter of contention. Some people believe that allowing the photographs could make an impact on the minds of the citizens of the United States as to the cost of war; as the death toll rises from the wars in recent years. There are many who feel that by not seeing the evidence of the coffins, people would not understand the depths of the sacrifice that our service persons were making. In effect, out of sight…out of mind. (more…)
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Posted in baby, birth, children, emotions, family, fathers, finances, kids, legal, love, media, mom, MONEY, mother, news, observations, parenting, poverty, pregnancy, relationships, support, tagged babies, biological, children, Denis Beaudoin, donor, embryos, ethics, father, finances, history, invitro, media, mother, Nayda Suleman, news, ovarian cancer, parenting, paternity, questions, relationships, sperm, support, testing, Time on February 25, 2009|
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Denis Beaudoin who believes he may be the father of some of the children that Nayda Suleman (Octo-mom) gave birth to has gotten the ok to have DNA testing done to determine whether he is in fact the father of any of the children. Nayda has 6 older children as well as the 8 newborn babies who made media history recently when they were all delivered alive.
Denis donated sperm to Nayda during the years that they dated between 1997-1999. She told him she couldnt have children the traditional way because she had ovarian cancer. They were in love at the time and wanted to have a child together. They broke up eventually and went their seperate ways. When he heard of these pregnancies and births…he immediately thought it was possible that he was the biological father. Nayda denies that he is the father and has ok him having the DNA testing to prove that he is not. Time will tell the truth about paternity. If it rules Denis out…then the questions will begin again about who in fact is the father. (more…)
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Posted in anger, baby, birth, cancer, children, custody fight, emotions, Fame, family, fathers, finances, future, Good Morning America, help, kids, legal, life, love, marriage, media, medical, mental and physical health, mom, MONEY, mother, news, observations, opinion, parenting, pregnancy, relationships, responsibility, support, taxes, values, tagged anger, babies, biological, California, children, Chris Cuomo, custody fight, Denis Beaudoin, DNA, donated, family, father, fatherhood, Fun, Giggles, Good Morning America, help, honesty, invitro fertilization, love, malpractice, married, media, mother, Nayda Suleman, news, nickname, octomom, ovarian cancer, parenting, paternity, relationship, responsibility, sperm donor, support, suspicious, tax dollars, testing, values, wife on February 24, 2009|
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A man, Denis Beaudoin, who donated sperm for Nayda Suleman during a 3 year relationship, that they shared 10-12 years ago, suspects that he maybe the father of ,at least, her older six children; not to mention the possiblity of being the father of her 8 newborn babies. Nayda has been the focus of much speculation and news reporting since giving birth to the babies; she has been referred to as the Octo-mom in the press. All 14 of her children have been conceived by invitro fertilization. Nayda says that all of her children are the product of invitro-fertilization from the same sperm donor. Denis Beaudoin says that he knew Nayda Suleman when their friends nicknamed her giggles for her infectious laugh. (more…)
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